In the states and I believe in other parts of the world, we have already observed and celebrated Mother's Day and Father's Day. I am one to believe Family Day should be observed every day within each family. Parents should celebrate each other and their child(ren), daily. Children should celebrate their parent(s), daily. This is best done through family devotionals, prayer time or other daily tradition with Jesus Christ as the foundation. I recall reading for the first time on a church's marquee these two slogans:
A family altar — alters a family.
A family that prays together — stays together.
I couldn't agree more! This doesn't guarantee a problem-free home but in the absence of it, problems are guaranteed.
Parents with minor children in the home are called to be examples. A child's developmental stage influences much of their behavior. Peer influence is also a factor to consider. If parents have a very good relationship with their child(ren), their influence can usurp outside influences.
Be thoughtful about what you allow your children to hear from your mouth. Be even more careful about what you permit them to see you do or others do, including entertainment. A child's mind is a sponge and database. They will remember when you forget. (Would be perfect if it helped more in their school work, wouldn't it?)
Be certain your child knows you are available and they can come to you first, about anything! If your child will tell me (in confidence) what they fear sharing with you, it's past time a bridge of unconditional love and acceptance is built.
If your child(ren) knows of your previous negative history, it is not too late to sit with your child(ren) and apologize to them for your mistakes. You will be amazed by the healing that takes place through this act of love.
You are the parent and you should know your child. You decide when and what to share with them. But the sooner (if they are mature enough to understand), the better, I assure you.
Remember, the greater a child's self-esteem, the better they feel about themselves and are less likely to be influenced by negative peer or societal pressures. Show and tell them how great they are and how proud of you they are. Even if you're doing it 'by faith.' Never disrespect or degrade your child through your actions or with words.
From the word of God in Colossians 3:18-21, here are instructions for Christian households as quoted from the Amplified Bible:
18 Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them.
20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord.
21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]
May God continue to bless you family. Let us pray for all families. Amen.
© Avis Ward